Change! Stop being stubborn!

As a dietitian, our job is giving counseling and advice regarding diet to the patient. During practicum, dietitian keep telling us that we should not tell patient do as what we want, no forcing is allowed although we know that if they could follow, their condition may improve a lot. We can just suggest patient with some tips to control their disease and explain to them why they need to change. Whether they want to follow or not is their own decision. We have no right to force them if they themselves do not want to change. For certain stubborn patient who do not want to comply with what we suggest even have sat for diet advice for few times, we will "let go" of that patient and change their follow up as "come as needed", means that we will not make a fix follow up again to tell him/her about what they have already know again and again. This is because they know what to do and what need to be changed, but they are finding excuse to rely on us so that they can fulfill their need, for example, getting attention from others or getting condolence from others.  

Sometime people around us, may be our family, our friend or someone who just know through network, might have problem that can't be solved themselves and are seeking for help from other people. As the one who being asked for helping them, what we can do is also the same. We can just give various suggestion but cannot force them to follow it. 

Sometime the problem still cannot be solved even they are seeking for help from people again and again. This might not because of the problem solving suggestion that have been given not good enough, but may be due to he/she do not want to change and finding lots of excuse to make themselves stubborn and keep asking people to listen to them and help them. So at the end, what we will do is "let go" of this kind people and only "serve" them when we feel there is a need.

So, stop to being stubborn! Stop to find more and more excuse! CHANGE! Only you yourself can control your mind and your attitude! Only then your quality of life will be improved and you will live happily.  

Give from God

I am reading a blog regarding a family recently. It was written by a father of 3 kids which each of his kid has different character and have different journey in their life. The part that attract most of my attention is about his youngest daughter, who was diagnosed with cancer when she was 3 years old. The father has written every details about how he and his wife and his daughter in fighting with the cancer and what the poor little girl have to face during her treatment.

Its really very touching as it shows how a parents will willing to do and sacrifice for their children and the love   of a parents over their children. His blog reminds me of a story of a children with congenital disease has born to a very generous and kind couple. When others are feel pity to this couple and feel that the God has not doing fair to them, there is a person telling that it is not because the God doing unfair to them, but the God knows only this kind of parents have the qualification to take care of this special child.

Well, I think the poor little girl might be also the give from the God to the family as He feel that the father and his wife have the qualification to take care of this girl.    

Weight Gain

Oh NO! I am keep putting on weight recently! It was 47-48kg before, had increased to 48-49kg since last  semester break in July, and now is 49-50kg after the past mid semester break 1 week ago. I was shock that my weight is increase so drastically when I weight myself today in Diet clinic. Although I know that my BMI is still within the normal range, but I am scare that my weight will keep increase and over 50kg very soon. I don't want my weight to be over 50kg. Not because of any reason, just I will feel that I am fat if my body weight is over 50kg. And one thing is every women sure will gain extra weight after giving birth. So, if I don't keep to the lowest, sure that after I am giving birth to 2 or 3 in the future, I will become an overweight mother. And if I am not start to control now, sure that my body weight will keep on increasing.

I noticed that I have problem with my hunger cue recently. Even I eat a lot more than before, I still can't fell full enough and will craving for snacks after main meal. It is terrible. Last time when I ate 1 cup of rice, I feel full, but now I think I need to eat 1cb of rice to have the similar full feeling like last time. And I eat faster than last time, especially in school, the reason is the food is not in good taste, and I just want to finish it as soon as possible. I also craving for snack and even replace it with main meal sometime. And the reason is the food in cafe make me loss of appetite, when this happen, I will think of just eating snacks.  

I need to control my diet now. Otherwise, sure I will regret till death. I should add on more vegetable in my plate and drink water before eating. Hope that I can cut down 1or 2 kg and don't increase some more.    

Make Yuorself Employable

Make Yuorself Employable

- Presented by Dr.Ranjit Singh Malhi

It is Friday and it should a day for most of us to have a good rest and relax the mind or with a good reason to stay at room for completing the assignment on hand. However, we was so frustrated that we need to participate in a program finishing school regarding how to make yourself employable after graduate. 

After the alarm I set has ring at 7.30am, I was so lazy to wake up and hope that I can sleep for few more hours as my sleeping was disrupted by dreams. However, I still wake up from my lovely bed very unwillingness and washed up in the toilet like a vampire. I was thinking that the workshop I will attend later must be very boring and in the style that I don't like. 

The event was carried on in the Dewan Pusat Pembangunan Pelajar. After registered myself at the counter, I was given a goody bag and I chose yellow color instead of orange color. After waiting for about 30 minutes, the talk started. So it was a short appreciation talk given by someone from HEP and followed by Dr.Ranjit Singh to start his workshop. Fortunately, the workshop is not doing in group. So I decided to stay longer there. 

Dr. Ranjit Singh is a very funny person. I forget his real age already but he is really like what he say- he is sweetie 33 years young man. He carried out the workshop in a very interesting way as he has many story to share with us and has many interaction with us. The time flying but we didn't realized that it is already time for morning tea. As we feel that the workshop is quite interesting and meaningful, thus we decided to stay until lunch. Again we continued with his talk after the morning tea and lunch time came very fast. The talk is very different from others because we would feel the time is past so fast but we still look forward for more from him. So I has decided to come back again after lunch time. It was a evening tea time between the afternoon workshop and finally end at 5pm ++. 

From the all day workshop, I really learnt a lot and realized that changing is a must to me. Regarding the job interview, I have finally feel release with the problem that has been obsessing me for a long time. Firstly, leadership is actually not the most important criteria in getting a job for a fresh graduate. As I am kind shy person, I din't participate much in activities related to leadership. So I always think that this would be the greatest weakness for me compared to others. Secondly, I always think that a good academic performance is enough to get a job but today I realised that it is just enough to get a job interview, so as a good resume and cover letter. Thirdly, English is a very important language. I feel that my English is very poor especially when speaking which is mostly due to low confidence as I actually can write in English well. Anyway, I am always wish to improve my English level, so I am writting blog and I believe that I can speak a fluency English by more practice.   

I think I learnt the most regarding self-esteem. I know well of my strength and my weakness and of course I know I need to change but I just scare of changing and scare of people's judging. This is why until now I still not improve my life and lack of courage to take the first step out. I should admit that I am a very low self esteem people. I have low confidence, I do not believe in my strength and I always scared to do thing wrongly. When talking about this, I thought about my practical in ward. I was getting scolded that day because I did things too slow and the underlying problem is actually due to lack of confidence. So the first thing I should change would be rebuilt confidence in myself and accept who I am.

Well, it still another day of workshop tomorrow and I hope that I am improving myself everyday.