Change! Stop being stubborn!

As a dietitian, our job is giving counseling and advice regarding diet to the patient. During practicum, dietitian keep telling us that we should not tell patient do as what we want, no forcing is allowed although we know that if they could follow, their condition may improve a lot. We can just suggest patient with some tips to control their disease and explain to them why they need to change. Whether they want to follow or not is their own decision. We have no right to force them if they themselves do not want to change. For certain stubborn patient who do not want to comply with what we suggest even have sat for diet advice for few times, we will "let go" of that patient and change their follow up as "come as needed", means that we will not make a fix follow up again to tell him/her about what they have already know again and again. This is because they know what to do and what need to be changed, but they are finding excuse to rely on us so that they can fulfill their need, for example, getting attention from others or getting condolence from others.  

Sometime people around us, may be our family, our friend or someone who just know through network, might have problem that can't be solved themselves and are seeking for help from other people. As the one who being asked for helping them, what we can do is also the same. We can just give various suggestion but cannot force them to follow it. 

Sometime the problem still cannot be solved even they are seeking for help from people again and again. This might not because of the problem solving suggestion that have been given not good enough, but may be due to he/she do not want to change and finding lots of excuse to make themselves stubborn and keep asking people to listen to them and help them. So at the end, what we will do is "let go" of this kind people and only "serve" them when we feel there is a need.

So, stop to being stubborn! Stop to find more and more excuse! CHANGE! Only you yourself can control your mind and your attitude! Only then your quality of life will be improved and you will live happily.